Steps to Happiness: You can't be all things to all people. You can't do all things at once. You can't do all things equally well. You can't do all things better than everyone else. Your humanity is showing just like everyone else's. So: You have to find out who you are, and be that. You … Continue reading Steps to Happiness
One of the things that confounds me most about alcoholism is its secrecy. Historically, Alcoholics Anonymous was "it" as far as recovery - and secrecy is a cornerstone of that organization. Some speculate that this secrecy has created a stigma for people with alcohol issues - if you're an alcoholic, you're a drunk, a deadbeat, … Continue reading Coming Out
As I work to put my drinking life behind me, I'm faced with how I want my new life to look. The old life pretty much involved daytime activities only - anything after dark was a haze. That means no going out in the evening, unless it was with the hubster to the theater a few … Continue reading Life Makeover
Here I am at Day 14! I'm feeling determined and solidly sober - no cravings and no desire, whatsoever, to return to old habits. I am still wrestling a mild headache, which I'm attributing to diet coke withdrawals. I'm walking every day, trying to eat more healthfully (tho still have work to do on that … Continue reading Two Weeks!!
My sober sisters have told me there would be ups and downs in the recovery process. I am definitely in a down - not to the point of failing and falling, but definitely down. I recently became aware of something called PAWS (Post Acute Withdrawal Syndrome) which can cause all sorts of issues for people … Continue reading Ups, Downs & Moderation!
A Sober Creatrix is defined (by me) as: A sober woman who has happily discarded her previous (not sober) life to make way for the active creation of a new life, especially one who takes great pleasure in the creative arts as a means of mindfulness and fun. I am a maker of things and, at … Continue reading Define: Sober Creatrix
As I travel through different blogs, podcasts, chat rooms, etc. related to women in recovery, one of the most common concerns I see women express is... unworthiness. This is probably my #1 obstacle. I was/am the eldest of two. My mom, for the most part, was a single parent, working multiple jobs and struggling to make ends … Continue reading Worthy of Love
I have always been on the search for transformation... the quiet girl standing at the fringes who wanted to transform into an outgoing butterfly; the mom who didn't stand up for her daughter that time in the 4th grade when the teacher chewed her out (and still wishes she had); the woman desperately trying to reframe … Continue reading The Goddess Kali
I've quit drinking "for good" many times. There was the time in the late 1990s when I got some counseling and quit for nearly 4 years! Then the time I got healthy and quit from about 2007-2010 (lost 60 pounds to boot!). There have also been numerous times I quit for a week or 3 … Continue reading Final Day 1